About michellebreon

Just a mom trying to get by and keep my sanity. I'm a runner, a triathlete, a coffee lover, an outdoors enthusiast, a baker and a candlestick maker.

[Destination]: Financial Peace


Boy, oh boy.  I know that I’ve seen the title of this post on so many different blogs, but there really doesn’t seem to be any other way to say it.  I’m craving financial peace – a peace that comes with paying off debt and living within our means.  Who wouldn’t want that?  I’d love to be able to say that I’m debt-free (except for our house) by the time I’m 35.  That would mean college loans, car loans, and credit cards or any other outstanding loans are paid off…woo hoo!  Well, that’s what our family is striving for.  I’m even excited to say that we’ve been blessed enough this past year that we knocked a small college loan out of the picture this past weekend!  Now, that should be the American Dream!  (More on that later.)

However, I’ve found myself falling back into my old habits over the past month.  We were going strong with the envelope budgeting system where we pay cash for everything.  But, since it hasn’t been made a habit yet, I found myself falling back to the routine of card-swiping because I didn’t have the cash on me.  The plus side of this was that it was at least my Debit card and not a credit card.  Phew!  The cash still had to be in our account; I just wasn’t following our budget as closely as I should have been.  And plastic is just so much easier than cash!

After looking at the budget yesterday, I’ve discovered that I’m already over our grocery budget for this month.  Yikes!  On the 17th day of the month, I’ve already spent through our food “cash allowance”.  Oh pity.  Guess what comes next.  That’s right…a pantry challenge.  I now have to get creative with all the food I currently have.  Of course, I already have a bunch of frozen meals that I can use, but I was hoping to save those for when the baby arrives.  I might still be able to do that.  We have rice, beans, chicken (lots of chicken, thanks to Costco), ground turkey and plenty of other items in our freezer and pantry that we should have no problem eating through the rest of this month.  Really, are any of us that strapped in America that we are truly starving?  If you’re accessing a computer to read this, I don’t think so.  Anyhow, I’m thankful to be prepared with the knowledge of how to handle this situation.

It’s so easy to get sucked into the idea that we “need more”.  I’ve lived that life for the majority of my 31 years on this planet.  When I went off to college, I got myself into trouble with credit card debt.  Then, because I didn’t learn my lesson then, when I got married, we bought whatever we wanted to because we could.  Being a couple who worked full-time and had no kids, it felt easy to pay off our credit cards each month.  And we weren’t in “real” trouble.  Right?  Wrong!  We had created habits as young adults that we are now trying desperately to undo.  Do you know how hard it is to change something you’ve been doing for a lifetime?  It’s tough, but every lesson I learn is putting our family that much closer to our goals.

After reading Dave Ramsey’s The Total Money Makeover, I asked my husband to read it as well.  Now, mind you, I’ve asked DH to read a lot of things in the past…it doesn’t usually go over so well.  He tends to be much more skeptical than I am.  I like to believe the things I read; thankfully, he balances me out in that department!  However, he agreed to read this one, and after reading it we both decided it was a great way to move toward our future goals.  I was floored!  And excited!  And floored some more!  It was great that we were actually on the same page with something.  And this was such an important thing to be on the same page with.  The book discusses seven steps to become debt-free and financially stable (even wealthy).  Dave even states that it’s not really new information.  People have been saying these strategies for years.  Putting them in the right order and sticking to the goal is the hardest part, but it’s so worth it.  I’ll tell you, paying off that college debt was so freeing!  Now we can move onto the next debt and work even harder to reach that next goal.  Of course, I have to actually stick to the budget we put in place…not easy, but I’m chalking this up to a learning curve.  And I’m excited for the challenge of making this work.

The typical American Dream has transformed from it’s original definition to include more of everything.  I feel that today’s youth have even taken on the ideal that we’re all entitled to more.  More money, more house, higher paying jobs, and without the expense of doing the work.  Oh, if only that were the case.  Wouldn’t we all just feel happier?  No.  Think about generations before us who had to work and work hard in order to get the things they desired or even needed.  Just to put food on the table, some people had to work two or three back-breaking jobs just to feed their families.  Can you imagine?  Some of you can.  Some of you cannot even fathom it.

What’s your “American Dream”?  Mine has switched to contentment with what I have.  I have been blessed with so much in this life, and I haven’t actually taken the time to really appreciate it.  The tides are changing.  I don’t know if it’s from staying at home with my kids, or if it’s just where I’m at with my life right now.  But I’m thankful.  Thankful for the ability to stay with my kids and help them grow to be their own thankful human beings.  I’m thankful for the roof over my head, the food my table is blessed with, and a husband who cares for me and this family.  What a joy.  May you find your thankfulness today in all that has been given to you.


[Destination]: The Slow Lane

Yes, I know.  Many people are always looking for the shortcut, the easy way, or the fast track.  But, honestly, it doesn’t really seem to get us any further along in our lives.  At least it doesn’t seem that way in mine.

This morning, as my kids were playing outside in the backyard, I heard sirens that seemed to be coming to our neighborhood.  We live near a rather busy road, so I didn’t think too much of it.  Then, the helicopters (yes, plural) came.  I mentioned to the girls that there must have been a bad accident somewhere close by.  “How do you know?” the girls wondered.  Because of the helicopters and sirens I was hearing and seeing, I explained.  We went in the house for lunch, and I decided we should probably leave a little earlier than usual to get Big B to preschool.  Of course, as we pulled out of our development, the road was backed up like crazy.  We wound our way north to preschool, and our 10 minute trip turned into 35 minutes.  But we made it.

When I left to pick Big B up from preschool, I again tried to pad my time just in case the main road was still closed.  It wasn’t.  I made all of two turns and almost witnessed another accident about 500 yards from where the earlier accident had occurred.  An SUV attempted to make a left onto the main road at the same time a sedan was making a left onto his road.  My heart about stopped.  All just to beat the oncoming traffic.  Yikes.

Are we all really in that much of a hurry that we risk our lives on a regular basis just to “beat the traffic”?  Having two small children and one on the way has really changed my perspective on this.  “Just take your time.  You’ll get there when you get there” is what I continually tell myself nowadays.  My husband can attest to my attitude change; it’s only been a recent one.  Our lives are precious, all of them.  If we have to be somewhere at a certain time, we need to get ourselves going just a little bit earlier.  If we’re running late, it’s not the end of the world.  We’ll get there when we get there, or if we miss it altogether, so be it.  As my husband always says, “I have lots of precious cargo with me.  I’ll take my time.”  God really has blessed me with a wonderful husband who has taught me a lot about patience.  But don’t tell him I said that 😉

I dare you this week to take your time and try to get into the slow lane.  Let people pass you as they rush to their jobs, gatherings, and whatever else they have going on.  Figure out what the most important things are in your life.  Your family and friends would rather have you with them, safe and sound and late, than rushing and making rash decisions.  Put your life and the life of others on a high pedestal…it belongs there.  It’s not worth that extra five minutes you might gain by weaving in and out of traffic, or cutting someone off.  You are important.  Remember that.

[Destination]: A Glimpse into the Future

First off, I want to say just how truly blessed I am in my life.  While there are certainly ups and downs to every situation, I know that everything has happened in my life for a reason.  It’s like the Rascal Flatts song goes, “God blessed the broken road that led me straight to you.”  Nothing is perfect, but every trial, every heartbreak, every challenge has put me on a path to be exactly where I am today.  And for that, I am thankful.

Today has been quiet.  My girls slept over at Grammy’s house last night and are spending the day today having fun there.  My mom even had to bribe them to say two sentences to me on the phone: 1. Hiiiiiiiiiii, we miss you!  2. We’re having fun!  Then, laughter from my mom and the fulfillment of her promise of Smarties for the completion of their mission.  It was awesome.

It’s also provided me with a small glimpse into my future and the realization that my messy house and my imperfect kids are a true joy.  As always, I’ve had high hopes for today…laundry, clean the house, wash the pots and pans, grocery shopping, buy fabric, pick out the wall color for the baby’s room, make some more freezer meals, etc., etc..  The list could have probably gone on for hours.  So far, I’ve cleaned one room, done two loads of laundry, and emptied the dishwasher.  Then, I got bored.  Not because I don’t have plenty to do, mind you.  But because it’s SO QUIET here.  It’s now 3:00 in the afternoon, and I feel like I haven’t done anything.  (I haven’t even taken a shower yet…but that’s our little secret.)

Now, I know that I have done some things around the house and have been able to check a few things off my list.  But as I was watching the movie Big Fish while lying on the couch amongst some unfolded sheets and baby clothes, I realized that if everything got accomplished all the time, I would be living an extremely boring life.  If my kids weren’t around making messes for me to clean up or if my house was always in perfect order, I’d probably sit around all day, watching movies or buying stuff online.  I don’t live in a pigsty; however, the only time my house is completely clean is…well, when my mom used to clean it for us.  If we’re having company over, the downstairs will most likely be cleaned.  But DO NOT venture upstairs if you are uncomfortable with messy bedrooms and a hallway cluttered with things waiting to find a home in the attic.

My epiphany for today is that my situation is not perfect, but it is where I’m supposed to be.  With a baby on the way in just a couple of short months, I need to stop stressing out about whether I’m getting a load of laundry done every day or whether my floors are cleaned or my rooms are dusted.  Yes, things would go a little more smoothly if everything in our home had it’s own place, but now is not the time to be worrying about those things.  Now is the time to be enjoying my family, loving that my kids are growing up happy and healthy, and making memories with them every day.  Anxiety over toys being left out overnight and laundry that sits in the dryer an extra day has been taking away from the joy I should feel for the circumstances of my life.  

Lysa TerKeurst said it so well when she pulled out the phrase “consider it” from the Bible verse James 1:2.  In James 1:2, it says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds.”  Why would we ever consider a trial pure joy?  Lysa states, “because we will not feel joyful in the moment.”  Amen!  While I’m not out on my rooftops begging people to come into my house to see how messy it is or rejoicing when my children are not listening, I need to consider the joy that these trials bring.  A roof over my head, beautiful, loving children to watch over, and happiness that is sitting there waiting for me to truly grab ahold of it.  Without these trials, my life would feel empty and honestly quite boring.

So, while I may be yearning for a clean home or hoping that my children listen to me the first time I tell them to do something, I will never wish these times away.  I will strive to always consider them pure joy and know that this path is where I’m supposed to be.  Without it, I’d be wandering, lost and alone and not knowing which way to turn.

I will not let my imperfections cause me any more anxiety, and I will not dwell on the fact that my life is not identical to someone else’s life that I may believe to be perfect.  While making changes is good, knowing that my life is where it should be and that even small baby steps of change are steps forward will bring my heart peace.  I wish that for you today as well.  

I’m off to cross one or two more things off my list (including that shower)!

[Destination]: A Clean, Organized Kids’ Closet

We finally did it!  We moved the girls into the same room, and they are loving it.  I have to say, I’m loving it, too.  It has it’s moments, like naps are pretty much irrelevant at this point for my youngest when the oldest is in there with her.  And they tend to wake each other up in the mornings.  But, all in all, this has been such a great experience, and I’m so glad we finally got ourselves organized enough to do it!

Moving Little B over to Big B’s room was a smooth transition.  However, moving her stuff has taken quite some time to actually accomplish.  DH and I had to figure out how to get clothes and other items to fit into the room without dressers taking over the entire space.  I think I’ve said before (or at least meant to say before) that we have had WAY too many clothes in our house.  Thank God I actually purged a bunch of that stuff already!  I couldn’t even imagine trying to fit two little girls with oodles of clothes into the same room before.  Now, it’s totally doable.  And not only because of the decluttering…


The original inspiration for this project came from a pin on Pinterest from iHeartOrganizing.  However, after looking at prices and realizing we would probably need a little more storage space in the closet itself, we decided on a DIY shelving system that could hold more storage bins.  The photo above is what DH and I finally agreed upon…and I couldn’t be happier!  Each girl gets her own set of colored bins (the blue ones are for overflow), and each bin holds something different (one has socks/underwear/swimsuits, one has PJs, and the other has seasonal bottoms).  The bins on the bottom shelf hold each girls’ shoes.  I need more hangers, but I’m hanging shirts on the bottom and dresses on the top, and each girl gets one side of the closet.  



We’re actually close to not needing ANY dresser in their room…ANY!  I’m already coming up with things to do with the extra space (a little reading nook in their room, since they have so many books – add that project to the list).  

While this all may have started from a simple pin, it’s leading me towards becoming content with what we have.  Is this my dream house?  No.  But turning it into our home is bringing peace.  It’s also helping our family to realize there are more important things than “keeping up with the Joneses”.  Maybe someday we’ll have our dream house, and we’ll keep taking steps to get to that point.  For now, this is where God has us, and I need to leave all of this up to Him.  I’m blessed to have a roof over my head, food on the table, and family and friends by my side to share in this joy.  I pray that you all learn to be content wherever you are, too.

[Destination]: Home…from vacation

This past week was spent just a few short hours from our home to celebrate the marriage of my brother-in-law.  It was a truly great time with some truly great people.  We got to spend the entire week at a little retreat in the woods (well, a wooded area of Mechanicsburg anyway), and we felt like we were able to just “get away” for a few days.  While we still had the rush of getting ready for the wedding and packing as much into 7 days with our West Coast family as we could, I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

It’s amazing what can be revealed to you once you take a moment to sit back, relax, and enjoy the view.  It’s in those quiet, albeit chaotic, moments that you realize just what you might be missing or what you really do need in your life.

Lessons learned during this vacation:

1. Slow down.  Life is not to be rushed through, and it also does not bend to my rules.  No matter how much planning you put into a day, something will always go differently than you expect.  Roll with it.  Enjoy it.  Watch your kids (and yourself) grow from it.  And don’t stress about the fact that things change in an instant.  Control what you can, but be ok with what comes your way.

2. Family is of utmost importance.  Ok, so I already knew this one.  I know it enough that I often tell my DH how much I miss his brothers who are now all out West.  Their families are growing, our family is growing, and my girls often ask if we can invite their aunts, uncles and cousins to their birthday parties.  It breaks my heart.  So, we will make it a priority to do what we can to get out there and visit.  Because life is all about your family and it needs to be a priority no matter what.

3. Live life simply.  Learn about what you need and what you can do without.  The simpler life is, the happier you will be.  Clean out your stuff, cut down on your bills, really take the time to think about whether you need that bigger house or more expensive car.  You’d be so surprised about what you can live without and what you really can get by with.  As an example, I know our lives have gotten so much better and more meaningful through simply turning off our cable.  It saves us some money each month, and we’re “forced” to spend more time as a family, connecting, bonding, and just plain talking to each other.

I’m so thankful for the time that we’ve gotten to spend with family over the past week.  Now, it’s time for us to unpack, decompress, and get back to our normal routine.  That routine will certainly be changing.  I think the girls have really like a more “relaxed” mommy over the past week.  My biggest hint was yesterday, on our way home, my oldest daughter Keira kept telling me she loves me.  Over and over again I got to hear those beautiful words from her.  I asked her this morning why she kept telling me that (not that I was complaining) and she said, “because I just love you”.  That’s certainly good enough for me.Image

[Destination]: A Happy Mommy

Boy, there are days (many, in fact) where I feel like a Monster Mommy.  I’m constantly telling my kids “no” and “don’t do that” and “stop it”.  And, of course, there’s the yelling and screaming.  My kids do not respond well to that.  Then, I feel bad when I’ve made them cry, start to cry along with them, and find myself apologizing for the way I acted.  It’s bad.  And I hate it.

You see, my kids are really good kids.  I’ve been blessed with two very loving, very strong-willed, and very well-behaved daughters.  I’ve even been blessed with a boy (who’s on the way in October).  So many people tell me how well my daughters play together and how nicely they interact with each other.  And, I have to admit, they really do.

So why does Monster Mommy come out on occasion you ask?  Because this mommy has issues.  There, I’ve said it.  I have issues.  Unfortunately, I have my own demons that I have yet to deal with, and they come out at my kids when they’re not acting exactly as I think they should be at that moment.  I hate it.  My girls are 2- and 4-years-old.  They act like 2- and 4-year-olds act.  And that should be ok.

Being a mom is a tough job.  I know that when I left my life in the corporate world to be a stay-at-home-mom, I got a lot of strange looks (especially from the men).  I left a fairly well-paying position as a manager where I got to direct adults, teach them new ways of doing things, and run my department, to instead go change diapers, clean up the house, and teach my kids to share their toys and wipe their noses.  I’m pretty sure that some of the men in my company thought I was absolutely nuts, and that I was taking the “easy way out”.  My former boss actually told me that I would be back in less than a year.  Nice vote of confidence, huh?

I’ll tell you right now, I would not trade my life for the world.  Yes, I’ve thought about throwing in the towel once or twice (or maybe twenty times).  But then I take a look at my kids, even when they are screaming and fighting and making a huge mess, and I know that I’ve made the right decision for my family.  I haven’t seen my husband more thrilled than last night when he walked in the house, dinner was in the oven, and there I was, barefoot and pregnant, vacuuming the living room.  That may sound like something out of the 1950s, but honestly, I couldn’t have been happier either.  Life makes sense now.

So what’s the strategy from here on out in order to not be Scary Monster Mommy anymore?  I really don’t know.  There might be no way to avoid me this way, but I will try.  I’ll keep asking for help, look to God in times of need, stop and think about what I’m about to say, grow and change and become a better person all around.  But, for now, I have to accept the good with the bad and know that, while it’s not always easy, it is ALWAYS worth it.


[Destination]: Clean Laundry

I still have intentions of doing some sort of organizing today; however, if I don’t get to it, I’m not too concerned.  An impromptu pillow fight that started out between my husband and the girls and then turned to just me and my four-year-old was just the medicine that was called for today.  It reminded me that, while it’s important to keep your home clean and only have what you need, it’s more important to have a pillow fight with your kids.  We laughed, ran into each other, stole each others’ pillows, and had a great time.  Our hair was a mess and we couldn’t stop smiling.  I’ll take that joy any day.

I know it sounds weird, but while I’m decluttering and removing the excess from my life, I’m slowly finding that I’m able to enjoy all life does have to offer even more.  In a recent post of mine, I listed a few physical and emotional things that clutter and excess can actually cause you if you don’t get a handle on it.  Depression, anxiety, weight gain, and a serious depreciation in our quality of life have all hit me pretty hard in the past.  I just never realized how much damage they were actually doing at the time.  I used to sit and think that this was just the way that I was.  Maybe depression and anxiety were just a large part of who I was.  

Just over the past five days, I’ve found that this is definitely not the case.  When I’ve said that I breathe a little easier now, I mean it.  I have more control over my life than I’ve ever felt that I have.  And it’s the little things like doing a load of laundry every day (and folding and putting it away), and straightening up and putting things back where they belong that has brought peace to my otherwise chaotic-feeling life.  Every donation bag I put into the back of my van provides a little more satisfaction of where my life is and where it’s going.  Clear thoughts, clearer vision, and happiness in the blessings I’ve been given…that’s the direction of this destination.  And I’m moving closer every single day.